The perfect day (shallow edition)

Hopefully we all have different tastes, passions or dreams. For instance, I certainly do not get why people find Kim Kardashian attractive but that is another subject. Despite these differences, here is a kind of day that could make (almost) any female happy. We all deserve a bit of happiness in this sad sick stupid un-sensual world.

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1. You wake up surrounded by your favorite people (could be a friend, a boyfriend/girlfriend, a dog, your mom or dad -although the last one is a bit weird if you are older than 13 years old-.)

2. Breakfast is all served and looks like a Sofia Coppola’s movie, except that you won’t have any indigestion at the end of it.

3. No matter how long your bath is, you are not running late. On the street, a few people start to smile just by looking at your charisma and your natural beauty. You are so fresh. It is like you do not even try.

4. At work, your boss decides to give you a day off “because you did such a great job last week, you deserve a break. Here is a fund-raising we did in your honour *giving you a big amount of money* because we think you are a wonderful colleague”. Of course, you are a talented young woman.

5. Shopping is so boring, you decide to spend your money on Amazon (buying books makes you feel smart and today, you really intend to read them.) The rest of the raising goes to this accordionist that plays everyday in front of the Japanese restaurant you usually go for lunch. That makes you feel very proud.

6. You bump into your ex. Depending on your experience and personality, you have two options: he became fat and ugly and that makes you feel good. He is still hot but you became even higher in the level of success and that makes you feel good.

7. Your phone rings. A famous publishing house finally wants to publish your memoirs. That was about time.

8. On your way home, you hear on the radio that it was just a myth: Heath Ledger is still alive.

9. and he is waiting for you in your living room (alone or with your friend/boyfriend/girlfriend/dog/mom/dad.) Do what you want with this information.

10. At the end of the day, you noticed you lost a few pounds / gained muscles (depending on your fitness goals) by smiling too much.

The best part? This was not just a dream.

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Illustrations Tina Berning

Things I miss… and things I don’t.

In 2014, I had the chance to live in Paris and Geneva (which I did not talk about because Geneva, as beautiful as she is, is a quite boring city to live in). 2015 began in Germany, a country I always particularly cherished. As I did my Erasmus year in Germany a few years ago, I like to think I am pretty familiar with the German-way-of-life, although I am still amazed by it.

Today I wanted to share with you the few things I sometimes miss about France while living in Germany… and some things I really do not miss.

  • Things I miss

1) La “french” baguette. No surprise at all. One week ago, a friend of mine came and we wanted to eat a fatty-yet-yummy breakfast. I have to say, all these “brötchen” are damn good but a breakfast without a typical french baguette and some salted butter is like a life without love: empty in the belly.

2) The language. The language barrier exists. Do not get me wrong, I love hearing german (talking is a bit harder for me) and I do not miss that much french language. I would say I understand 80% of what I hear in my good days, but still. Usually, when I have something in my mind that I judge too hard to translate and to say, I prefer not to say anything, which can be quite frustrating.

3) Private jokes and cultural references. Now, these are things any expat can rely on. Each country and each generation have their own references, pop culture or not, and sometimes you can feel alone and misunderstood when there is no way people are going to get the things you are talking about. I guess being a truly successfully expatriate would be to stop missing it in every conversation you have -and to embrace the cultural references of the country you now live in- and it surely takes some time. The cynical sense of humor is also very french but germans can have it as well, it depends on the people you are with. Anyway, “l’humour noir” is sometimes very depressing so I can live without it. A few days. If not, I would call a french friend to have a little bit of it.

4) Flirting. Even if I have a wonderful boyfriend and it does not bother me, it can be nice to feel seduced just for the conventional and funny act of it. Germany seems to be a not-so-passionate country and as a french friend of mine likes to repeat, “Eh ben les allemands c’est pas eux qu’ont inventé la passion…”. I am not sure I totally agree but it is not completely false neither… I guess about that, France has always been and always will be one of a kind. For good and for worse.

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  • Things I don’t miss

1) La baguette. In every day life, dark or cereals bread is so much better than white bread. My body feels a lot better since I stopped eating white bread to every meal. Germany makes the best bread ever and I am the happiest girl in the world. Also, Germans have bretzels and for that, I would never be grateful enough.

2) The beer prices. To give you an idea: 7 eur. for two pints in a pub, while it would be the price for one beer in Paris (although Paris is extrem, I concur).

3) Grouchy and angry people. The average normal boring french people usually are grumpy and always complaining about stuffs, even when we do not want to hear or care about. Germans are much more stoic and do not share their inner feelings so easily. In a way, I find them more respectful towards others but again, that is my opinion.

4) Flirting. French guys can be annoying. Really annoying. At the end, it is a 50/50 but let me tell you that somehow, I usually feel better when I am in Germany. Could it be possible that I have found what Germans call my “Heimat” (the place you feel at home)?