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Since december, I have got my name on a paper, an official paper, saying that I am the lease holder of an appartment. My first real appartment. The place where I am / we are going to live at least one year. I am a person who can feel herself at home pretty quick and almost everywhere but there is a time when moving a lot can become a problem. When it is not a self aware kind of choice.

I loved all these years (more than ten years already!) living with people, sharing a flat with friends, with strangers, sleeping on my brothers/friends couches. Having the possibility to pack my bag and being the next day to a new place, a new city, a new country was the freedom I did choose for many years.

Since september, I am working in Paris and happily pregnant. The time has come to settle down for a while. Surprisingly, I feel relief. Because we have plans, we are becoming parents and I am not by myself and living just for me anymore. Time has come and I finally know what it is like to have a purpose bigger than my own little person. It feels pretty amazing.

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I feel so lucky. A place where I can go anytime! Where I can cook! Where I can put my stuff on the walls and light some candles whenever I want to! Where I can paint and draw! Where I can clean up after my own mess!

People should never underastimate the luck they have to call a place “home”.
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Pregnancy tips

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Obvious pregnancy tips

As I am in the middle of my second trimester, I thought I would share some tips. Nothing unexpected or that you have never heard before but I can see it is working for me or at least until now. It is helping me to stay healthy and relax during this special time.

  • Your body is changing and you can get tired very quickly so one advice: take it easy ! Don’t rush, don’t push yourself too hard especially at work. You are now breathing for two, it can be exhausting.  On the other hand, you can sometimes feel a lot of energy within yourself. Take advantage of these days to do yoga or to go swimming. It is good in every way: body, mind, spirit. Being slow does not mean being inactive.
  • Eat clean. Although I tend to eat as clean as I can (I am not perfect), I also never restrain myself. Variety is the key. No meat or fish for me but I am used to do so since I am fifteen. There is not one single rule when it comes to food. Except maybe no alcohol and listening (at least considering it) what your doctor tells you.
  • Follow an easy and simple routine. I never wear a lot of makeup but I am trying to focus on the quality of my skin. Dry skin is never confortable so I use a body cream (odorless) more than usual. After the first semester, your hair won’t need a lot of caring: the hormones make them grow faster and less oily that is why I tend to keep a very minimalist routine.
  • Love yourself. Your baby will thank you and your partner will love you even more. It will help you going through the pregnancy, no doubt. Obviously, you will gain some weight but it is for a good cause, it is better not to care too much as long as you are healthy.

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  • Read as much as possible! Having a brain activity is so important. Essays, fiction, non-fiction, books about pregnancy… Whatever. The point is to stimulate your imagination, your critical thinking, to get informations and a lot more.

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  • I know, I said to take it easy. But being pregnant also means that you have a lot of administrative procedures to do, documents to fill in and appointments to attend. I am very very bad at doing these things but since september I try to do it on time because I am no longer on my own. Yes it is boring and not fun but it is for the best. Getting stuff done is important.

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  • I never thought I would be pregnant while living in Paris, I always thought I would be in the countryside. I need fresh air, trees, long walk in the forest or just being surrounded by silence or the singing of the birds. Observing nature is necessary if I want to stay positive. I know I should go more in parcs or force myself to escape the city even a few hours…

Above all, I believe the key is to listen to yourself and your body. Make some small changes in your everyday life if you feel the need but nothing too dramatic. Try to avoid stressful situations and take care of yourself. And as my doctor said “you’re pregnant, not sick.”

PS: Happy birthday my love.

The perfect husband

Today is all about creating the dream husband we all wish for. We are going to give life to our perfect husband through characters from movies (you could also put Leonardo Dicaprios characters all in one, that will work). I wanted to make this clear : you are looking for a husband-for-life, not a boyfriend-for-fun. Let’s go!

First of all, you need a genuinely nice guy, with an inherent sense of morality and deep values. A good education is a plus. His style has to be casual, as you do not want your friends to think you are married to a clown. Someone like Joel in Eternal sunshine in a spotless mind.

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Let’s add some craziness. The problem with Joel is that he is a bit boring and we all know that women need some adventures in their life! Your husband has to be a romantic guy, a dreamer, a sensitive buddy inspired by your beauty and your beautiful soul. He will write poems about you, will cook sweet chocolate cookies for you, will take your hands in the streets just because it makes him happy like Tom in 500 Days of Summer. I know he is in a way sensible but love makes him do spontaneous things and that is all you need to know.

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Then of course, your husband has to be smart. I mean, really smart. Not a “I have a degree” smart but more a “I have a PhD and was able to speak before I was one year old” smart. A man like John in A Beautiful Mind should be good to shine in society.

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Intelligence is ok, but you need to feel you are protected by your man, right? That is why your husband needs to be strong and ready to fight for you. The world is a dangerous place and he should be able to make you feel that “everything is gonna be alright” and that nothing is going to happen to you, because he will always be there, no matter what. A real man full of virility, a G.I, a Gerry in World war Z.

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Adventures are good but not everyday. That is, if you plan to have a quiet family week-end in a cottage, your husband needs to know how to relax and do nothing but hanging around in pyjamas and eat ice cream on the couch. Laziness is quite enjoyable, specially if you are going to be together until the end of your existences. The Dude in Big Lebowski does the trick. According to the picture, he might go to the groceries without you, wich can be a very good point.

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Finally, what is life without sex? Your almost perfect husband should have a last great skill on his list : he has to be a good, a wonderful, a magnificent lover. I see only one guy to  embellish the picture : Brandon from Shame.

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I wish you all the best to find your perfect husband and in case you already found him, lucky you. I probably missed some skills, feel free to correct me and add some wonderful abilities to this list because we women are never satistied. Yeah!

PS1: I now speak for myself but a beard and nice hair are qualities to consider.

PS2: This is NOT a sarcastic post. I repeat, this is NOT a sarcastic post.